FEAR and The Reality Behind it.

FEAR

F.E.A.R  -  False Expectations Appearing Real.

Fear is closely tied to our instincts to survive. If you see a Lion turn toward you and growl. Your senses are telling you that you are in immediate danger. This sends impulses to your body and brain. You quickly become afraid that if you do not do something fast you may end up on tonight's menu. Do you run? Do you stand perfectly still? You quickly assess the situation and decide on the best course of action to keep yourself alive. Fear has taken over and may be the one thing that saves your life from a vicious attack from the King of Beasts. We have only two basic innate fears within us. The first is the sound of a loud noise and the second one is falling. All other fears have been learned.

That is right! All of your other fears have been learned. Some are good, but most are not. Fear is a very very strong motivator. It has to be in order to keep you off the dining list when we used to roam the woods trying to survive against other beasts and predators.

Those early days have all but disappeared unless like me you live in the country where you have to kill a poisonous snake or spot a bear now and again. The fear of losing one's job is in the top five along with your health, family and even religion. There are other fears, but today we will concentrate on these, because they are our root fears where all the others spring from. Let's take a closer look at what makes us afraid. All these root fears have one thing in common. The one major link connecting these and all of your fears is the lack of being in control. If you knew that you would always have money no matter if you worked or not, you wouldn't be afraid of losing your job. If you had the ability to heal yourself at any time of your choosing then you would not worry about your health. If you could protect your family no matter the situation, you would not have to be afraid for them.

All learned fears stem from the fact that we do not feel we are in control of what happens to us. If I were to tell you we are in control I am sure you could come up with a thousand and one reasons to prove me wrong. But are those reasons valid?

If you watch any television these days you are going to be inundated with commercials touting the latest disease and how their drug will cure it or the very least keep it under control. Pharmaceutical companies spend millions of dollars advertising their drugs to the general population. Why do they do this? Profits. If you tell people about a certain disease and you have something that will treat it there are going to be a certain amount of people who will believe you. Play the commercial enough times and those same people will convince themselves they have the disease.

Television commercials are geared to change your belief system. They are there to tell you to believe they have an answer to your problem. If you don't have a problem, they will help you make one up. What is a belief anyway? It is a thought you keep thinking. Have you ever heard someone telling you it (bad luck, a health condition, uncontrolled anger, etc.) "runs in the family?" If you go for a check up, eventually your friendly family practitioner is going to ask you if there is a "History" of cancer, diabetes. dementia or something like that in your family. He believes that heart disease or some other malady that someone related to you has will jump from their body to yours. Maybe not jump, but that since your DNA is closely related to their DNA then you are more susceptible than someone unrelated. Now he didn't just make this up, he has seen it many times. For instance, if your mom and dad have a habit of eating  poor quality food all of the time, smoking, sitting around watching television for hours on end, never exercising and you follow their habits then you may end up with some of the physical problems they are dealing with. If your mother had breast cancer and told your her mother had breast cancer and then looked at you with fear in her eyes then she is creating a belief in you that no matter what you do , you will eventually be dealing with breast cancer yourself. So you walk around worrying about having breast cancer because you think it is out of your control. After all, your mom and her mom had it so it must be hereditary. You tell you doctor what your mother told you and he agrees! Now you have a medical professional who just dealt you a major blow to your belief system.